YOU CAN'T BE EVERYBODY'S FRIEND
In a world where many crave acceptance, where people want the approval of everyone to feel valuable and loved; we must understand that being everyone's friend makes you your own enemy. You cannot be everyone's friend, and not lose who you really are. The moment you try to please everyone around you, you will begin to do things that do not align with your personal journey, and ambitions, taking off your true essence from you.
People have different tastes, values, and perspectives. No matter how kind, genuine, or accommodating you are, there will always be someone whose perspective does not resonate with yours, someone who sees you as a threat rather than a companion to partner with. Another man's judgement of you is not a true reflection of your worth, and you should not go out of your way trying to win over everyone, it will bend you and keep you exhausted.
The desire to be accepted and liked by everyone can lead to people-pleasing, where you suppress your true self to avoid conflict or disapproval; nevertheless, in doing so, you dilute your authenticity, you replace yourself with someone else, and put yourself into extinction. The right people, those who appreciate you for who you really are, who accept the value you bring into their lives and spaces will find you when you stop bending yourself to fit into everyone else's expectations.
Instead of spreading yourself thin, focus on nurturing meaningful connections with those who value and respect you. A few, deep, genuine friends are far more fulfilling than a million shallow ones. Let go of the pressure to be universally adored. Be kind, be respectful, but do not sacrifice your authenticity for approval. The right people will stay. The ones who do not stay were never meant to be there with you, nor for you in the first place. You were not made to be liked by everyone; you were made to be yourself, and that is enough.
To a better you, Kamikun John.
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