Be kind on yourself

DON'T JUDGE YOURSELF UNFAIRLY

Sometimes, you stand in front of the mirror staring at yourself, and all you can see is the man who has failed, the man who has been beaten down, and battered by life. That may be what everyone else sees, but that is not who you really are. You might not be where you want to be, but you have not reached the end of the road. The fact that you haven't reached your dream destination yet, does not give you the permission to judge yourself unfairly.

Everything takes time, and the fact that you failed yesterday does not mean you will fail again today. People may criticise you, the society judge you, but you should not join them in bringing yourself down. You might want to compare your progress with that of your peers, you may want to use people's social media posts as a yardstick to measure how well you are doing, but the truth is, none of those people post their tunnel days, they do not make public their failures, and even their so called social media success may be curated.

Don't be the judge that subjects yourself to an unfair judgement. That you fell on the path to your dream does not mean you are a loser; the failure you encountered on a particular project does not pronounce you lazy; the fact that you were not considered for a position does not mean you are not worthy; don't be harsh on yourself, you just have to be honest, sincere, and patient with your progress.

Success does not come through perfection, it comes by being compassionate on yourself. Ditch the comparison game, your journey is yours; bloom where you are planted; embrace your mess; life is not a straight line, it is a doodle. You are a warrior, you have survived your worst days; you are unbreakable. Stop judging yourself unfairly. Let go of the whip, take up your wings, and soar. Be your own cheerleader, your fiercest ally.

To a better you, Kamikun John.