Choose your friends wisely.

DON'T FEAR STRANGERS, FEAR FRIENDS.

We naturally place trust in friends, often allowing them access to our deepest secrets and vulnerabilities. While this can create strong bonds, it also opens up the potential for betrayal. Strangers, on the other hand, evoke caution and skepticism, making us less likely to expose ourselves fully. Friends can significantly influence our decisions and behaviors. Their opinions can shape our values and choices, for better or worse. Being aware of this influence helps us recognize that sometimes, friends may lead us astray or challenge our best interests, whereas strangers typically hold less sway over our actions.

With friendship comes a set of expectations. When friends fail to meet these expectations, it can lead to despair and disappointment. Strangers, however, are less likely to let us down simply because we do not expect anything from them.

Betrayal often comes from those we trust the most. A friend's betrayal can be more painful than that of a stranger, as it cuts deeper and disrupts our sense of safety and support. It is essential to recognize this vulnerability in close relationships, which can sometimes lead to fear of intimacy. Conflicts with friends can be particularly complex due to emotional investments and shared histories. While disagreements with strangers are often more straightforward, encounters with friends can bring up difficult emotions, making it challenging to resolve issues.

While forming close bonds with friends is crucial for emotional support, it can also lead to situations where we feel pressured to conform or hide our true selves. Strangers, conversely, may allow us the freedom to express our authentic selves without fear of judgment or retribution. When we become aware of the potential pitfalls of close relationships, we can cultivate healthier bonds while maintaining an open yet cautious approach toward strangers. Striking this balance can ultimately lead to deeper connections and a richer understanding of human interactions.

Kamikun John, Author 366 days of wisdom.