Day 316 of wisdom
“If you are not willing to let go of the person you say you love, you never really loved them, it was something else.”
Kamikun John
Love is the most powerful force in the world. Where there is love there is peace, growth and progress, but where love is lacking there is chaos, rancour and destruction. In relationships, when you love someone, it is not just for your own gains, it is more for the gains, the progress, and growth of the one you say you love, it is mostly for what you want for them and what you have to give them and not what you can gain or receive from loving them. Even if they have all they think they need, there is no one who does not want to be loved. Love is every man's need.
If you love someone, you will always want the best for them, you will always want them to have whatever they think is good for them irrespective of what it cost you. Sometimes, what they want may hurt you, they may not want to be with you, and if that is what they want and will make them happy, your love for them will respect their decision without ill-feelings or grudges. You cannot threaten to hurt someone you once confessed you love, you cannot hate someone you once said you love, love never turns to hate irrespective of what happens and love never hurts another man.
That you love someone does not necessarily mean you must have the person to yourself, the true test of your love is in your ability to love someone even when they are no more yours, your genuine appreciation and care for that person is a revelation of how truly you have loved them. The best place for a bird you love is not the cage, leaving a bird in a cage because you love it is limiting the bird from flying into the sky, hindering her of maximising her powers and potentials. If you truly love her let her go.
Whatever is loved is not to be tightly and forcefully held on to. If you love someone well enough, you should not be too possessive of the person, you should not be seen to have control over them, rather they should be as free as a bird around you. As Deborah Reber would say “Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care about someone anymore. It’s just realising that the only person you really have control over is yourself.” When you love someone, let the person go, if they come back they are yours, if they don't they were never meant to be yours.
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