Day 353 of wisdom
“The delicate balance of mentoring someone is not creating them in your own image, but giving them the opportunity to create themselves.”
Steven Spielberg
Mentoring is not the quest to create in others what we have become, it is the thoughtful exposure of others to who they are and aught to be, making them discover their true potential and actualising their dreams and visions. When we are privileged or have the opportunity to be a mentor to someone, we are not to force our beliefs, principles, ideologies upon them but we are to open their eyes to the pathway for them to discover, form, and develop their own beliefs, principles, and ideologies. Mentors are not supposed to create a brand of themselves in another man, but to unveil the true brand of another man.
As a mentor, it may be difficult to not want to make your mentee follow directly in your footsteps, but it is very important that you overcome this urge to always want to make your mentee follow your style and pattern, because trying to do so would not be mentoring but torturing. It will be trying to make of a Tilapia a fully grown Catfish instead of making the Tilapia grow into a fully successful, fulfilling and goals shattering Tilapia.
Thich Nhat Hanh once said, “You cannot transit wisdom and insight to another person. The seed is already there. A good teacher touches the seed, allowing it to wake up, to sprout, and to grow.” A good mentor realizes that there is a seed within the man whom he is to mentor and his main focus should be awakening that seed, nurturing it, and allowing it to grow into what it should really be. There is a light within every man, but some men lack that person to switch on that light to lighten the world.
For those who need you to guide them on their path to the discovery of their true self, do not be a faulty compass to mislead them onto a path less fulfilling; for those who look up to you for nurturing, grooming, and coaching, do not be a torn in the flesh. Be a true model for growth and development, be an helper who pushes others towards their dreams and destiny, be a ladder to help others rise to the top and become who they were created to be. Life is not all about what you make of yourself but what you make of others.
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John Kamikun
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